Interpreting fatherhood after donation: Social representations and identity resonances among men having assisted a lesbian couple in becoming parents

Psychology of Men & Masculinities (2019)
Published on October 8, 2019

Authors: Isabel Côté, Kévin Lavoie, & Francine de Montigny

First published: October 2019

This article documents the social representations of the paternity of men involved in the parental project of lesbian couples as known sperm donors, that is, as part of an agreement established outside the medically assisted reproduction system. Eleven Quebec donors were interviewed to gather their views on their role with children conceived as a result of their donation. The results show that their representations are structured around a presence/absence dualism that reflects their experiences with their own fathers, while also following the agreement initially established with the mothers. Child care and daily presence are more associated with a paternal identity, whereas the donor or genitor identity refers to the genetic contribution transmitted through the donation. Between these two poles, some men must contend with significant ambiguity, given not only the absence of reference points or models but also the relational aspect of this practice of donor-assisted reproduction.

This research project was supported by grants from the Fonds de recherche du Québec – Société et culture and the Social Sciences and Humanities Research Council awarded to Isabel Côté.

How to cite this publication

Côté, I., Lavoie, K., & de Montigny, F. (2019). Interpreting fatherhood after donation: Social representations and identity resonances among men having assisted a lesbian couple in becoming parents. Psychology of Men & Masculinities, 21(3), 453-462.

  • Isabel Côté

    Professor in the department of social work at Université du Québec en Outaouais
  • Kévin Lavoie

    Assistant professor in Université Laval’s school of social work and criminology and is the scientific director of the Centre de recherche Jeunes, familles et réponses sociales

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